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to No More Perfect Marriages
HAVE A HURTING MARRIAGE?
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Books
NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
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ARTICLEs
4 Tips to Increase Connection and Let Go of Resentment | #MarriageMonday
Mark: I didn’t realize coming into marriage how much idealism and unrealistic expectations drove my everyday thinking and perspective. When my expectations weren’t met, my "slow fade of unrealistic expectations" led to disappointment and discouragement. For years I...
Help! My Nest Is Empty But My Spouse Still Lives Here! | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Imagine this: You finish dropping your last child off at college, you work through some of the heavy emotions in the car ride home, and you sit down at dinner once you get back home. You've made it to a major milestone: An empty nest. But wait... Who is that...
6 Common Things We Hear in Marriage Coaching | #MarriageMonday
Mark: Jill and I developed our marriage ministry because we wanted to use our own marriage pain and healing work to help others, and boy did we get a huge number of requests once we started offering marriage coaching. Jill: You know, we’ve received hundreds of...
Dear Frustrated: When You Want to Change Your Spouse
Dear Mark and Jill, I don’t like to be late to anything, and especially not to church. When I realize we'll be late, my energy is zapped, I get frustrated and shut down. My spouse, on the other hand, is less concerned with being on time. This has been a recurring...
What Our Uganda Trip Reminded Us About Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Jill: If you’ve been following us on Instagram and Facebook or seen some of our past blog posts, then you know that we recently traveled to Uganda to minister to the marriages of pastors there. Mark: We were also able to teach on relationships at Uganda Christian...
How to Know If You’re Ready to Rebuild Trust | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Mark and I often say that we have been married for 39 years—29 of them happily. Mark: That’s right. In the 10 unhappy years, our marriage was a mess in many ways. You wouldn’t have thought it looking in from the outside because we were doing everything “right.”...
Podcast
Love is a Choice with Dr. Gary Chapman | Episode 143
If there is one principle I have learned in nearly 40 years of marriage, it’s the principle that love is a choice. It’s a decision. It is not a feeling. Dr. Gary Chapman believes that as well because Love Is a Choice is the name of his newest book. Dr. Gary Chapman is...
How Your “Then” Affects Your “Now” with Elliott Anderson | Episode 142
When Mark and I went through the dark season in our marriage, it’s no surprise that we sought out counseling. However, what most people find surprising is that our counselor focused more on untangling our childhoods than our skills as a couple. That was exactly what...
The Essentials of Affair Recovery | Episode 141
Our marriage went off the tracks in 2011, when Mark was in a full-on midlife crisis, affair included. It would take us two years to move from being on the verge of divorce to a healed and improved Mark & Jill 2.0. I wouldn’t wish anyone to go through infidelity;...
Why Personal Growth Is Important | Episode 132
Today, Mark is joining me to talk about the subject of personal growth. It’s no secret that we did a lot of work on our marriage that we now affectionately refer to as “Mark & Jill 2.0”. But what you might not hear us talk about specifically as much is how much...
Uncovering the Secrets of Sex and Marriage with Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma | Episode 131
When we were early in our marriage, I often said to Mark, “Sex... I could go the rest of my life without it!” And he totally believed me. True story! Needless to say, we had all kinds of challenges in that area of our marriage, and eventually, we sought out sex...
4 Ways to Become a Better Listener | Episode 128
Today, Mark is joining me to talk about an important, though often forgotten, topic: listening. Listening is a skill that takes practice, focus, and a willingness to set aside our thoughts and engage with others. It’s not always easy, but when we put in the effort,...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
