Love the Real, Not the Dream | #MarriageMonday

Jill: When we were first married, I started making plans for Mark’s birthday for the first time as a married couple. I made plans the only way I knew how: with a homemade cake and having family over for dinner. Mark: This was a sweet gesture, however, my family always...

4 Intimacy Builders for a Healthy Marriage | #MarriageMonday

“…It is not good for the man to be alone…” (Genesis 2:18) Jill: Did you know that God created you for sex, intimacy, and connection? It was His idea! Did you know that He finds it beautiful and pleasing that a married man and woman would experience this ultimate...

3 Ways to Align Your Goals as a Couple | #MarriageMonday

On today’s #MarriageMonday, we’re talking about how to create goals with your spouse and how to align your individual goals as a couple as you look to the future. Jill: Between the two of us, Mark has always been more of the dreamer while I tend to be more of a...

7 Negative Actions That Can Hurt Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Mark: When Jill and I look back at what contributed to the dark season in our marriage, we found that it wasn’t the big things that made a difference. It was actually the little things that simmered under the surface. These things began an unraveling that gained...

6 Common Things We Hear in Marriage Coaching | #MarriageMonday

Mark: Jill and I developed our marriage ministry because we wanted to use our own marriage pain and healing work to help others, and boy did we get a huge number of requests once we started offering marriage coaching. Jill: You know, we’ve received hundreds of...

What Our Uganda Trip Reminded Us About Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Jill: If you’ve been following us on Instagram and Facebook or seen some of our past blog posts, then you know that we recently traveled to Uganda to minister to the marriages of pastors there. Mark: We were also able to teach on relationships at Uganda Christian...

How to Know If You’re Ready to Rebuild Trust | #MarriageMonday

Jill: Mark and I often say that we have been married for 39 years—29 of them happily. Mark: That’s right. In the 10 unhappy years, our marriage was a mess in many ways. You wouldn’t have thought it looking in from the outside because we were doing everything “right.”...

7 Questions to Ask Your Spouse Approaching Summer | #MarriageMonday

Jill: You know, summer is one of my favorite seasons. The sun is out, I get to tend to my garden, and I love getting to enjoy time with our grandchildren while they are on school break. Mark: I do as well. Along with summer, though, comes busy schedules, BBQs to...

How to Have a Safe Conversation | #MarriageMonday

Jill: I think it’s accurate to say that most of our conversations as Mark & Jill 1.0 (before our crisis) were not very emotionally-safe conversations. But now as Mark & Jill 2.0 (since we have been intentionally investing in our marriage), our conversations...