Spring Cleaning for Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday

On today’s #MarriageMonday, we’re talking about clutter. Specifically, cleaning up some of the “clutter” that can so easily accumulate in our marriages over time. Jill: It’s spring cleaning time! Here in Illinois, it’s finally...

The Marriage Manifesto | #MarriageMonday

Marriage is our passion. When Mark and I went through our marriage crisis now almost 10 years ago, we weren’t sure what the outcome would be. Trust had been broken. Tensions were high. (You can find the full story here.) But as we’ve experienced healing and now...

10 Hedges to Protect Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday

We have a line of trees along the west side of our country home. The previous owners wisely planted the trees to provide a hedge of protection against the winds that gust across the cornfields of central Illinois. Those trees serve as a visual picture of another hedge...

Using Your God-Tool of Compassion in Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Last week on the blog, Mark shared a little bit about his journey of surrender. So this week for #MarriageMonday, I wanted to share about a journey of compassion I’ve been on over the years. Colossians 3:12–13 says, “Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and...

4 Principles for Our Words in Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Jill: Welcome back to #MarriageMonday! Today, we are taking a look at the power of our words. Our words are powerful, and that power can be used both positively and destructively. When Mark and I think of our marriage before crisis and our marriage after crisis, we’ve...

Praying as a Couple | #MarriageMonday

Our #MarriageMonday posts are written to help couples dig deeper, connect intentionally,  and to be more equipped to handle the everyday challenges and realities of marriage. Prayer is such an important part of our relationship with God, as well as our relationship...

The Slow Fade of Unforgiveness

Jill: In our No More Perfect Marriages book, we identify the seven slow fades we find every couple experiences in marriage. As more and more people are reading the book, attending the seminars, and reading the blog series, they’re identifying other slow fades that...

Is Distraction Pulling Your Hearts Apart?

Jill: One of the things I love about being an author is having the opportunity to start a conversation on a topic, fully knowing that those who read the book or hear you speak will keep broadening your grasp of the subject. Mark: In our No More Perfect Marriages book,...

When Your Spouse’s List Collides With Your List

Mark: Most of us have lists in our head. Things to do. Projects to finish. People to call. I admit that my lists are probably shorter than Jill’s lists…but I have several lists nonetheless. Jill: I have lists galore. There’s my yard work list. My...

Doing Nothing Together

Mark says: “We need to do this more often.” That’s what I said to Jill yesterday morning as we spread out a blanket on the grass along the shore of Lake Michigan.  The International students we were hosting really wanted to see the Shedd Aquarium....

Marriage Monday: Love During Hard Times

Last week I had the privilege of partnering with Focus on the Family to encourage marriages on their radio broadcast. They also featured a 5 minute video I did for them in the fall about loving when it’s hard. If you or someone you know are struggling in your...