spouse Archives - Mark and Jill Savage

When Your Spouse Frustrates You | #MarriageMonday

Hi Jill, I need help. I get so angry at my husband for not perceiving potential consequences. He is handy, so he figures if he breaks something he can fix it, which he likely can. But this way of operating most often costs more money and time. This makes me angry....

10 (Free) Things to Give Your Spouse this Christmas | #MarriageMonday

I don’t really keep this a secret, but gift-giving isn’t my favorite when it comes to the holidays. Crazy, right? Don’t get me wrong. I love seeing the joy on my kids and grandkids faces when they open up something they’ve wanted and are surprised by it. I...

6 Ways to Tune Up Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Mark: When life gets busy, connection in marriage is usually one of the first things to go. Jill: When life is moving faster than is healthy for our relationships, it’s easy to minimize, both internally and externally. We internally minimize when we say to ourselves,...

Why Discussions of No Decision are Important in Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Mark: Have you ever felt like your spouse is slow at making decisions? Or have you ever been on the other side feeling like your voice isn’t being heard when a decision is being made? Do you ever sit down to have a discussion and end up arguing over whose...

When You Feel Like Checking Out of Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Mark: When marriage gets stale (and it does for all of us!), there’s a temptation to check out. We reason that if it feels like our spouse doesn’t care, then we won’t care. Or we tell ourselves that we’re the only one trying and we’re...

10 Hedges to Protect Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday

We have a line of trees along the west side of our country home. The previous owners wisely planted the trees to provide a hedge of protection against the winds that gust across the cornfields of central Illinois. Those trees serve as a visual picture of another hedge...