Last night we attended our son’s choir concert.  When his choir took the stage, one of the first things I noticed was the young man with the blue hair.

Twenty-six years of experience in mothering does something for your perspective in parenting.  Years ago, I would have looked at the boy with the blue hair and would have thought, “There’s a young man looking for his identity,” or “That young man is trying to figure out a way to be an individual.”

Last night, however, I had a completely different thought.

You know what I saw?

I saw a young man with very secure parents.

In our home we’ve been through colored hair, mohawks (on our daughter…not our boys!) piercings, and once they were in college—tattoos.  I’ll admit that with our older kids, I didn’t always handle those “individuality experiments” very well.  And the truth is, it was all about my insecurity. I mean…what will people think?

Part of growing up is figuring out the world and how you fit into the world.  Some kids will do that subtlety and some will jump in with both feet…or blue hair.

Your kid’s appearance does not define you as a mother.  Let them be themselves.  Let them figure out how they fit into this world.

Someday you’ll look back on this season and realize that in the big scheme of things, hair color, style, and other ways of expressing individuality were just a blip on the screen.

And not only that…you’ll have some great pictures for their wedding reception someday!

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