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The Wait is Not Wasted is the 5-Part Path to Creating Peace Within Your Soul while Inviting Your Spouse Back Into Your Marriage (without being a pushover, a nag, or a fool)
Do you find yourself defining life by before and after the hurt?
You look at people around you running errands, doing shopping, and going to church utterly unaware of the disappointment and/or devastation in your life.
There’s grief and panic and fear and anger all mixed up and sometimes appearing all together in the same 5-minute span of time.
There’s life before.
Life now.
And what does life in the future even look like?
Will you be alone forever?
Will you and your spouse be able to work things out?
Even if you work things out, will we go back to the way things were?
What about our family?
Is my marriage even worth saving?
What did I do wrong?
How will I raise my children alone?
Why did this happen to me?
I know these questions are running through your mind because I’ve been there, and they were the questions I asked myself.
Jill Savage.
My “before” was 10 years ago.
When I discovered my husband’s midlife crisis had become an affair, the pain of betrayal physically hurt.
I cried more tears than I’d ever cried in my life.
I dug out every card he’d given me over our then 28 years of marriage, ripping them up and throwing them in the trash.
This is not what I thought my story would be.
The affair led to a separation. Divorce was on the horizon.
One February morning in that dark season, God reminded me of a message I’d heard Jennifer Rothschild deliver about losing her sight at the age of 17. As she shared her story, she made this simple statement:
It is not well with my circumstances, but it is well with my soul.
My circumstances were definitely not well. But, was it possible that it could be well with my soul?
That was the day I turned a corner.
That was the day I began to pick up the pieces.
That was the day I saw just a glimmer of the possibility of peace, hope, and joy someday again in the future.
I crawled out of bed and found my Bible.
It was not well with my circumstances, but I was determined that it would be well with my soul, and I knew I had to begin that journey with God.
In this painful waiting season, God worked on my soul.
He helped me find peace and possibility, even when I couldn’t see what He was doing.
That day was nine years ago, in the middle of my year-long waiting period to know if my marriage was going to survive or if it wasn’t.
My marriage did make it, but I want you to know that I would be okay today even if it hadn’t.
And regardless of what happens in your world, I want you to know that you will be okay, too.
I’m so sorry for the pain you’re experiencing. I wish it could be taken away with the snap of a finger.
It can’t, though. I had to walk it out, and you will have to as well.
There is good news.
You Can
Deepen your relationship with God
Discover relating patterns that are healthier and better
Make your soul well, even when your circumstances are not well
I know that may be hard to imagine right now.
In the 4 years I’ve been a marriage coach, I’ve helped many people walk through this challenging journey of waiting.
What I Want You to Know is
Waiting is Not a Wasted Season
Even if you don’t get the outcome you desired from your wait, the waiting time is still worth it.
When I tell my clients that, a lot of times, they agree, but they still struggle, especially when all signs point to things not going the direction they’d had hoped.
And the longer the waiting season went, the more their internal battles grow as they try to rationalize reality with hope.
They needed clear guidelines, tools, and actions to help them.
So, I looked deeper into the exact thoughts, actions, and steps I used in my waiting season and started giving them as tools and guidelines to use.
Over the years, I’ve refined these into a complete path to becoming well with your soul while still having hope during the waiting season.
And I’m happy to announce that I’ve put all of them into a series of videos and a workbook that can help you with your wait.
If You’d Like the Specifics of How to Walk Through the Wait with Grace
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At the End of The Wait is Not Wasted, You’ll
Become deeply connected with God and be able to turn to Him when you feel alone.
Stay steady even when the conversation and relationship are hard.
Know the exact steps to take for any situation your spouse brings.
Feel peace knowing that even if it is not well with your circumstances, it is well with your soul.
What’s Included with The Wait is Not Wasted?
5 Modules of Video Training You Can Reference Over & Over
Transcriptions of Each Video so You Can Read if You Prefer
Printable Workbook to Solidify Your Learning
On-Demand Access so You Can Go at Your Own Pace
Let Me Share A Little More About Each Module in the Path to Peace…
Module 1
YOUR FAITH
“Cling to your faith in Christ.”
~ NLT 1 Timothy 1:19
Discover a deep understanding of who God is and how only He can guide and lead you through the wait.
After these training sessions, you’ll experience a deep, genuine, personal relationship with God that will allow you to entirely rely on Him, especially in your darkest moments.
You’ll be able to trust God for answers that are always right, especially when you’re too scared to say them out loud, feeling alone, and like there is no hope.
You’ll see how God paints a ray of hope around you, guides your soul, and anchors you with His love.
Module 2
YOUR Heart
“Now seek the LORD your God with all your heart and soul.”
~ NLT 1 Chronicles 22:19
Identify 5 different types of grief, the differences between motivation and manipulation, and how to bring joy back into your heart in this powerful module.
After these training sessions, you’ll have specific strategies to handle the tsunami of emotions you’re experiencing, even when they come at the most inconvenient moments.
Joy will return to your life because you’ll know that even if it is not well with your circumstances, it will be well with your soul.
Your renewed, vibrant joy will be visible to others and is crucial to inviting your spouse back into your marriage.
Module 3
YOUR Head
“Prepare your mind for action and exercise self-control.”
~ NLT 1 Peter 1:13
Your actions start from your thoughts, and in this module, you’ll uncover just how much stinkin’ thinkin’ is going on in your own mind.
You’ll shift your thoughts from loathing to loving and create the peace you truly desire.
After these training sessions, you’ll know how to handle those inner voices that never seem to have anything positive to say about you, your spouse, or your relationship.
You’ll shut the shame up and allow space for your feelings to change, so your actions can change.
You’ll find yourself de-escalating situations, looking at things differently, and feeling calm even when there is chaos.
Module 4
YOUR Actions
“His faith and his actions worked together. His actions made his faith complete.”
~ NLT James 2:22
Here you’ll find the specific actions to take as you’re waiting for your spouse to recommit, including how to set necessary boundaries in a way that is effective but not aggressive.
After these training sessions, you’ll know the exact actions to handle just about any situation, from continued broken trust to feeling incredibly alone in your journey.
You’ll stop walking on eggshells and become confident in your interactions with your spouse.
You’ll find yourself rejoicing in how you handled a difficult situation because you used God’s Tools instead of your own.
Module 5
YOUR Relating Patterns
“Let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.”
~ NLT 1 John 3:18
Relating patterns are formed in childhood, and you may not even realize you have one!
In this module, you’ll discover yours and how to move to the most secure and beneficial relating pattern.
After these training sessions, you’ll have the skills to resolve conflicts, so they are shorter and less hurtful.
You’ll be able to clearly voice your concerns instead of hinting at them or avoiding the conversation altogether.
Your spouse will change how they communicate with you because you’ll change how you communicate with them.
Because I Want You to Have As Much Information as Possible,
My Husband, Mark, Joins Me on the Trainings
Each video in The Wait is Not Wasted also includes my previously disconnected spouse, Mark.
He shares his experiences as the person watching my change, going through each of the modules in our real life, 10 years ago.
He’ll enrich your experience with his insights based upon his own personal growth in his own “wait.” He’ll also share how my changes affected him, even though he had no interest in changing or re-engaging in our marriage.
Mark Savage
I’m excited to join Jill in this experience because I offer a unique point of view of the thoughts I had as Jill took these steps outlined in the modules above.
At the time, I didn’t understand what was happening and it confused me. I also didn’t trust it. However, as I began to see her changing from the inside out, it had a profound effect upon me.
But I’m glad Jill kept working through what you’ll experience in these modules, making herself better, because her changes were a big part of what turned me around and made me ready to recommit to our marriage.
Now I have my family together, a marriage I’m proud of, and the ability to use our past pain as a path forward for others.
Only God can work miracles like this. But He doesn’t do it alone. You have to participate.
While I can’t speak for your spouse, I know I’m so glad Jill went through all of this. I’m grateful she had the courage to keep going, even when it was tough. Her courage and consistency amaze me, even today.
My hope is that my insights will help in your journey through the wait, giving you a perspective from the other side.
Mark Savage
As someone who’s been where you are, I know some things will be exceptionally tricky.
So, I’ve added a few extras to help even more…
01.
How to Make Decisions During The Wait
Making decisions, big or small, is really overwhelming when there are so many unknowns.
That’s why I’m including this bonus, so you’ll have the confidence to make decisions, even when it feels impossible.
02.
How Not to Feel Resentful
As you’re wisely choosing to invest in making good use of your waiting time, it will feel like your spouse should be doing the same but they probably aren’t.
That is the grounds for resentment, so I’ll show you exactly how to handle that feeling in this bonus.
03.
The Boundaries I Set While I Was Waiting
In this extra, I’ll walk you through the boundaries I set around money, our home, and our life during my waiting period.
I’ll explain why I set them and how I communicated them so you can have examples for developing your own boundaries.
04.
Helping Your Kids in the Waiting
If you’re a parent, then the weight of your wait is magnified by the pain of your children during this season.
This downloadable extra walks you through how to recognize your individual children’s needs so you can help them in the way that is best for them. It also covers how to make your home a safe space for them to express their fears and emotions.
The Wait is Not Wasted is the 5-Part Path to Creating Peace Within Your Soul while Inviting Your Spouse Back Into Your Marriage (without being a pushover, a nag, or a fool)
Core Modules:
Module 1: Your Faith (valued at $735)
Module 2: Your Heart (valued at $735)
Module 3: Your Mind (valued at $735)
Module 4: Your Action (valued at $735)
Module 5: Your Relating Patterns (valued at $735)
The Workbook (valued at $199)
The Bonuses:
How to Make Decisions During The Wait
(valued at $150)
How Not to Feel Resentful
(valued at $200)
The Boundaries I Set While I Was Waiting
(valued at $150)
Helping Your Kids in the Waiting
(valued at $150)
Total Value = $4,524
Suggested Investment = $997
Today's Investment
4 Payments of $89
OR
$299 (save 20%)
“THE PATH TO PEACE”
Jill has taught me so much in this hard waiting season. I’ve learned so much about God, about myself, and about the dynamics in my marriage that were unhealthy but I couldn’t see before. I highly recommend Jill’s path to peace.
~ Suzanne in Springfield, MO
I KNOW YOU CAN DO THIS
I know you can walk through the waiting season with grace, even when you don’t see the outcome.
But, I also know that you may not know me very well, and I don’t expect you to trust me yet.
That’s why I want you to know about our 30-day money-back guarantee.
If you’re not 100% happy with The Wait is Not Wasted, the videos, the workbook, the extras, or the bonuses within 30 days, I will offer you a full refund for any reason.
You can join today without making a final decision.
Take the full 30 days to dive into everything inside…
Experience The Wait is Not Wasted for yourself and see if it can improve your waiting season.
That way, you can decide based on accurate information, not just thoughts swimming in your head that may not be (probably aren’t) true.
My marriage was a mess and I was reacting to everything around me.
Jill’s wisdom has been an anchor for my heart. I’m changing and the dynamics in my home are changing too.
I can’t recommend her Wait Is Not Wasted wisdom enough.
~ Katy
The Wait is Not Wasted is the 5-Part Path to Creating Peace Within Your Soul while Inviting Your Spouse Back Into Your Marriage (without being a pushover, a nag, or a fool)
Core Modules:
Module 1: Your Faith (valued at $735)
Module 2: Your Heart (valued at $735)
Module 3: Your Mind (valued at $735)
Module 4: Your Action (valued at $735)
Module 5: Your Relating Patterns (valued at $735)
The Workbook (valued at $199)
The Bonuses:
How to Make Decisions During The Wait
(valued at $150)
How Not to Feel Resentful
(valued at $200)
The Boundaries I Set While I Was Waiting
(valued at $150)
Helping Your Kids in the Waiting
(valued at $150)
Total Value = $4,524
Suggested Investment = $997
Today’s Investment
4 Payments of $89
OR
$299 (save 20%)
The Most Asked Questions About
Is this only for marriages?
This is about finding peace in your heart in all waiting scenarios. We created it with marriage in mind but we’ve had individuals walk the path in all kinds of hard seasons.
My spouse won’t even return my calls. Will this work for me?
Yes! Because this is about what’s going on inside of you and what you bring to the table spiritually, emotionally, and relationally. This is your opportunity to grow. Whenever you connect with your spouse in the future, you’ll bring a new you to the interaction.
My spouse is giving me very mixed signals. Will this work for me?
Yes! Your steadiness, kindness, grace, forgiveness, and even boundaries set in love, will be very important in providing reassurance to your spouse.
My spouse has a porn addiction. Will this work for me?
Yes! Your spouse’s porn addiction is not about you. However, you may be making it about you. The more secure you are in your faith, your thinking, and your relating patterns, the less snagged you will be by your spouse’s addiction.
My spouse has an addiction to alcohol and/or drugs. Will this work for me?
The Wait is Not Wasted focuses on what you bring to the relationship. Setting boundaries in love will be an important part of the journey for you. Staying steady will be too. This experience will help you do both.
My spouse has misused our money. Will this work for me?
Trust has been broken, but that doesn’t mean you have to be! The Wait Is Not Wasted will help you stand on a firm foundation even when the storms of life threaten your security.
Isn’t praying enough? Why do I need to purchase something?
Prayer is so very important! So is community and personal growth. This experience will equip you to pray more effectively as well as strengthen your foundation of faith and your relational skills!
Do I need this if my spouse seems close to ready to recommit to our relationship?
Until your spouse HAS recommitted, I’m sorry to say that you are still waiting, so yes, this course will help you even if your wait is only a few more days or a few more weeks.
That’s because it focuses on YOU to help you become the best version of yourself.
And I know that is the best way to get your spouse to recommit and the best way to walk through a healing marriage.
I’m in counseling right now. Why would I also need this course?
The Wait Is Not Wasted provides an incredible partnership to counseling! As you work through the modules you’ll likely find topics you’d like to explore more with your counselor. In general, it will round out your personal growth and counseling experience.
My spouse has fully recommitted to our relationship. Would The Wait is Not Wasted still work for me?
Yes, The Wait is Not Wasted will still be very valuable for you.
However, we do have an additional resource for those whose spouses are ready. It’s called Rebuilding Trust and you can see the details here.
How much time will this take me?
Honestly, I can’t say because everyone’s journey in the wait is unique.
What I can tell you is that getting through the materials will take you about 8 hours because of the length of the videos.
What exactly is included in The Wait is Not Wasted?
32 Videos (in 5 Modules) of On-Demand Video Content
60+ Page Workbook for Deep Learning & Quick Reference
How to Make Decisions During the Wait Downloadable PDF
How Not to Feel Resentful Video Training
The Boundaries I Set While I Was Waiting Downloadable PDF
Helping Your Kids in the Waiting Downloadable PDF
Full Transcripts for Each Video Lesson
This is all designed to help you find your Path to Peace anytime you need it.
What if I don’t like it?
You have a full 30-days to try it out and see if you like it. If you don’t, simply email us for a refund within 30 days of purchase.
Did I Miss Your Question?
Contact Me, and I’ll Help You Out.
Before I go,
I know the waiting season probably isn’t something you wanted.
It probably feels like you’ve been handed a pile of crap.
That’s how I felt.
I didn’t want any of this.
But, it didn’t matter.
There it sat… like a big pile of crap.
I realized that I had a choice…
I could let the crap pile up, stinking up
everything in my life
OR
I could take the crap and use it as fertilizer
You know what I chose, but now, I’m asking you…
What Will You Do With the Crap?
Let it Pile Up & Stink Up Everything or Use it as Fertilizer to Grow?
I hope you choose growth in your waiting season, even if it is not with The Wait is Not Wasted.
Because marriage matters,
The Wait is Not Wasted is the 5-Part Path to Creating Peace Within Your Soul while Inviting Your Spouse Back Into Your Marriage (without being a pushover, a nag, or a fool)
Core Modules:
Module 1: Your Faith (valued at $735)
Module 2: Your Heart (valued at $735)
Module 3: Your Mind (valued at $735)
Module 4: Your Action (valued at $735)
Module 5: Your Relating Patterns (valued at $735)
The Workbook (valued at $199)
The Bonuses:
How to Make Decisions During The Wait
(valued at $150)
How Not to Feel Resentful
(valued at $200)
The Boundaries I Set While I Was Waiting
(valued at $150)
Helping Your Kids in the Waiting
(valued at $150)
Total Value = $4,524
Suggested Investment = $997
Today's Investment
4 Payments of $89
OR
$299 (save 20%)
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