Buckle up, this is the episode where we are covering all things sex! You may feel embarrassed to talk about sex candidly or you may even feel like sex is still a dirty word from your childhood. However, you may be surprised to learn that there are very few “do nots” when it comes to sex within marriage and a whole lot of freedom.
To help us get more comfortable about the topic of sex and to discover God’s instruction on the topic, we have some expert friends joining us. Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, authors of 60 books, relationship specialists, and together they co-direct Love-Wise Ministry. Bill and Pam have been happily married for 44 years, and have three grown sons and seven grandchildren. They live on a boat that is docked in Southern California.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- How men and women can work together to build intimacy
- Why we should design the sex life we want in marriage
- The importance of having candid conversations with your spouse
- And so much more…
I’m so excited for this episode and I hope you are too! Let’s talk about sex!
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Resources mentioned in this episode:
- [BOOK] Red-Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle
- [BOOK] Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti
- Sign up for a free 7-day trial of Date Night
- Connect with Bill & Pam on their website or Facebook
- Join me at the Empty Nest Full Life Retreat!
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) You have to talk about sex. Movies and TV shows depict that everything just works in the bedroom. The reality is that sometimes you need to schedule sex and you most definitely need to get comfortable talking about sex. That doesn’t mean that you have to get comfortable talking about it with everyone, but in order to design the love life you desire in marriage, it’s important to have frank discussions with your spouse.
2) There is a lot of leeway within marriage. You might be surprised to hear that there are very few “do nots” in Scripture regarding sex. There is a lot of freedom for you and your spouse to explore in the bedroom. So take the time to explore one another! See what feels good and what doesn’t. There will be some things that work for you and others that just don’t. All that is needed is that you take time to pray and communicate with your spouse as you create your sex life together.
3) Intimacy doesn’t begin and end in the bedroom. Intimacy isn’t just sex. There is a lot more that happens outside of the bedroom that contributes to intimacy. When it comes to building a healthy marriage and healthy sex, you need to practice all forms of intimacy. This could be finding activities you enjoy doing together, finding another couple you enjoy going to try new restaurants with, or doing devotionals as a couple. Even navigating the challenges of parenthood can bring about a deeper intimacy than you’ve ever known before.
About Bill and Pam:
Bill and Pam Farrel are international speakers, best-selling authors, relationship specialists, and the co-founders of Love Wise, a ministry dedicated to helping people build successful relationships. Bill and Pam have been happily married for 44 years, and have three grown sons and seven grandchildren. They live on a boat that is docked in Southern California.
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