I follow one of my favorite authors on Twitter. This week @TriciaGoyer tweeted: John came home for lunch. I’m still in my pjs. We had leftover casserole. Comfortable love is totally romantic.
I love the concept of “comfortable love.” It describes that place in a marriage relationship where you don’t need to impress each other any more. You can really be comfortable being just plain old you with each other.
Of course, the danger is that we can get too comfortable with one another. That’s when we aren’t sensitive to each other’s feelings, or we don’t take care of our personal hygiene, or we don’t make any effort to make our relationship a priority.
But comfortable love accepts you for who you are warts and all.
Comfortable love accepts how you are different from each other and doesn’t try to change you into someone you aren’t.
Comfortable love allows for human failures and responds with grace rather than anger.
Comfortable love is ok with leftover casserole for dinner on occasion.
I’d like to know: what does “comfortable love” mean to you?
When I saw the question in facebook, I immediately started forming my answer ready to post. Then I came to the blog and you said what I was thinking! Great minds think alike! I will add some thoughts about being too comfy. We have been married almost 14 years. I think sometimes we forget what it was like when all your thoughts were about the other person. We would leave little love notes, get mushy cards and just cuddle on the couch. Sometimes we get too comfortable and forget the little romantic things. But I LOVE being comfy in love in that no matter what the love is there!!
Great insight, Michelle!