Real connection happens when you master the personal, powerful way your partner uniquely receives love. That’s when love moves from routine to remarkable.
If you are one of the 20 million readers of Dr. Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages®, you already know that love isn’t one-size-fits-all. This framework provides us with a great place to start, but many couples have found there’s still more to learn about how to fill up each other’s love tank.
Our guests for this episode are experts on this topic who have teamed up with Dr. Chapman to bring us the long-awaited sequel to his renowned original guide. Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are psychologists, speakers, and #1 New York Times best-selling authors of numerous books, including Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. This married couple not only share the same name, but also a passion for helping others build healthy relationships.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- How to go beyond your spouse’s Love Language™
- A rundown of the dialects your partner may be “speaking”
- The one question that will transform your relationship
- And more!
For Mark and I, understanding our Love Languages™ has been instrumental in transforming how we express our love for one another. We hope this conversation is a helpful resource as you seek to understand and connect with your spouse on a deeper level!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
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- [BOOK] Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before — and After — You Marry
- [BOOK] The Love Language™ That Matters Most: How to Personalize Love So They Really Feel It
- Love Languages Free Assessment
- Love Languages Premium Assessment
- Les and Leslie’s FREE gift to you
- Connect with Les and Leslie on their website, Facebook, or Instagram
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) Start by fostering curiosity about how your spouse receives love. Real connection is created when we are expressing love to our spouse in the way they prefer to receive it. Each Love Language™ has dialects, which are personal and powerful ways love is uniquely expressed and received. When we don’t seek to understand what makes our spouse tick, even the right language can fall flat. Get curious this week by learning about the Love Language™ your spouse appreciates most, or consider taking one of the Love Language™ assessments together.
2) Regularly ask, “How full is your love tank?” This question can transform your connection and relationship. When you understand your spouse’s Love Language™ and dialect, you can ask them this question periodically, consider their answer, and then respond with simple actions that you know will affirm the love you have for them. It’s often not about grand gestures, but instead those small things throughout your daily interactions that help fill up your spouse’s love tank.
3) It’s about practicing love, not perfecting it. We can often feel a pressure to love our spouse perfectly, and when we don’t, we may end up beating ourselves up or feeling like a total failure. The reality is that no one can love another person perfectly. The 5 Love Languages™ and their dialects are a helpful tool to practice loving our spouse (and expressing that love) more fully—knowing that this is a lifelong journey that will be full of making mistakes, learning, and growing.
About Les and Leslie:
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are psychologists, speakers, and #1 New York Times best-selling authors of numerous books, including Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts. They not only share the same name, but also a passion for helping others build healthy relationships. Leslie specializes in marriage and family therapy, and Les is a clinical psychologist. They’ve been featured on Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning America, and a variety of other media outlets.
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