This week’s episode will look a little bit different, as we are resharing one of our top five episodes of all time with you!
With the holiday season beginning, there will be countless opportunities for relationships to be strained. You’ll encounter many situations where you will have to interact with people that you would rather avoid.
We were designed to be in relationships. However, even though connecting with others is part of our DNA, navigating relationships can also be one of the most challenging parts of life. Joining me to help us explore this topic is PeggySue Wells.
PeggySue is an author, speaker, and coach. She is the best-selling author of 45 books. On top of that, she’s a single mom of 7 kids. PeggySue has a passion for helping people improve their relationships.
We first released this conversation four years ago, and it’s still one of our favorite episodes. The information shared continues to be a great resource for all of us as we head into the holidays and are knee-deep in the sometimes messy but always meaningful work of family relationships.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- The five R’s that destroy relationships
- How to get out of common unhealthy cycles
- The benefits God has for us in relationships
- And more!
I hope you find this message both timely and helpful!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Connect with PeggySue on her website or Facebook
- [BLOG] To Improve Your Business and Relationships, Avoid These 5 Rs
- [BOOK] The 10 Best Decisions a Single Mom Can Make
- Single Mom Circle
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) Recognize when you are in one of the five R’s. PeggySue walked through the five R’s that destroy relationships and how each one ultimately leads to us repeating and deepening an unhealthy cycle. The first step to breaking that cycle is to recognize when you are headed down that path. Take a moment to think about your relationships. Is there one that is particularly tough right now? Which R are you in? PeggySue made a habit of using the phrase “What are the facts?” to help her recognize when she was stepping into a feeling of Rejection. Is that a phrase you may need to adopt as well?
2) Go back to the facts. Our emotions can often dictate the story we play out in our minds. When we catch ourselves feeling rejected and becoming resentful toward someone else, we need to pause and check the facts. This is usually the point where our emotions start weaving a tale that plays into our fear of worst-case scenarios. We tell ourselves, “They don’t like you, and that’s why you didn’t get invited to that event. She is angry with you, and because of that, she isn’t listening to what you told her to do.” If we take the time to go back to the facts, we’ll often find that the story in our minds isn’t accurate at all!
3) Examine what areas God may be growing us. Sometimes God puts us in relationships in order to reveal the things that we need to work on. There are times when a relationship may be dangerous or unhealthy to stay in, and in those cases, you need to protect yourself or reach out for help. But in many circumstances, God uses those in our lives to knock off our rough edges and continue to make us look more like Him. The next time you are in a tough relationship, ask yourself what God is trying to show you. What are the rough edges He is working on?
About PeggySue:
PeggySue Wells is a coach, speaker, and author of 45 books. Her books have been recognized on the Wall Street Journal and USA Today’s bestseller lists. In addition to her gripping novels, PeggySue is passionate about helping others live more fulfilling lives through her nonfiction works. PeggySue lives in Indiana, where she is a single mom to seven children. In her spare time, she loves to parasail, scuba dive, skydive, snorkel, and has taken (but not passed) pilot training.
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