When we stand at the altar and say “I do,” our eyes are filled with stars. We’re certain we have found happily ever after.
After the wedding day, we find out that this marriage stuff is way more complicated than we initially thought. Once we are living out our day-to-day routine with another person, we find that challenges abound.
We talk about marriage a lot on this podcast, but today, we are going to get a little more specific. We’re diving deep into how marriage is experienced by men. Our guest for this conversation is Roy Wooten.
Roy is the executive director of The Crucible Project, a nonprofit men’s ministry. He has served as a pastor, ministry executive, coach, and counselor. Roy and his wife have co-authored The Secret to Lifetime Love.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Common tendencies men have within marriage
- Lies satan often uses against men
- The importance of learning how to engage our emotions in a healthy manner
- And more!
We deeply enjoyed Roy’s fresh insight on how men engage in marriage.
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- Connect with Roy on Facebook
- [BOOK] The Secret to Lifetime Love: Speaking and Hearing Truth
- The Crucible Project
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) Men are often taught from an early age to suppress their emotions. Have you ever noticed that very few emotions are viewed by society as acceptable for men to express? For instance, a man expressing joy or sadness might be looked down upon because these emotions are not traditionally viewed as masculine. Because of this, anger is often one of the only emotions men feel comfortable expressing. This carries over into a man’s relationship with his spouse and all the other relationships in his life. Without the skills necessary to have a healthy relationship with their emotions, many men will experience isolation and be misunderstood in their marriages.
2) We were never meant to do life alone. When things become emotional or stressful, many men will run away or isolate themselves from others. In reality, what they need is the exact opposite! Not only do they need Jesus, but they also need the support and guidance of other Christian men to help them through life.
3) Practice radical openness with your spouse. The key to a healthy marriage is learning how to engage with your emotions in a healthy way and communicate well with your spouse. This isn’t something that comes naturally to most people. It must be learned over time and may even require the help of a mentor or coach. I promise the impact this has on your marriage is well worth the initial discomfort it takes to practice radical openness.
About Roy:
Roy Wooten is an author, speaker, counselor, and the Executive Director of The Crucible Project, a nonprofit ministry devoted to creating a world where people live with integrity, grace, and courage, fulfilling their God-given purpose. He authored Unstuck: 7 Steps to Break Free and Live Courageously and co-authored The Secret to Lifetime Love alongside his wife, Devra. They reside in San Antonio, Texas, and have two married children and one grandchild.
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