Wow!  Yesterday’s discussion about nutrition was wonderful.  So many of you are intentional about what your kids are eating.  There were some WONDERFUL ideas shared. If you’re looking for some great strategies for healthy eating, check out yesterday’s comments here!

Congrats to Stephanie (calcari) who was the winner of yesterday’s drawing for the ViveLeDish book!  Stephanie, I’ll contact you by email to get your info to send out your book!

Over on our Real Moms…Real Jesus Facebook study, we’ve been talking about boundaries. In order to find balance in our lives and to give our family our best, we have to be willing to set up boundaries.  Jesus was a master at setting boundaries and we can learn so much from Him!

One boundary I’ve found to be helpful is making an advance decision of how many activities outside the home I will commit to.  Many years ago a friend shared with me the concept of One Major/One Minor.  I’ve found this to be so helpful!

This boundary is an advance decision I make to only commit to one major responsibility outside the home and one minor responsibility outside the home at a time.

A major responsibility is something that I have on a regular (weekly) basis like committing to teach Sunday School, leading a moms group, or even full-time work.  It requires daily or weekly (or almost weekly) preparation and a regular commitment.

A minor responsibility is a “just show up” responsibility.  Working in the church nursery or helping with my child’s Christmas party at school are minor responsibilities.  No prep needed, just show up, serve, and leave.

If I get asked to do a Major responsibility, I have to make a choice: either quit the major responsibility I’m currently doing or say no to the request.

I started using this boundary many years ago when I was home full-time and it applied only to my volunteer activities.  Now, however, I’m working more at Hearts at Home.  Yes, much of it is from my home, but the responsibilities are daily and more intense.  So now I’ve realized that my work leading Hearts at Home, writing, and speaking IS my major.  No more major responsibilities for me.

Do I grieve that?  Yes.  Are there some things I’d love to say yes to?  Yes.

But am I less stressed and more focused as a wife and mother?  Absolutely!

That’s the beauty of boundaries!

What about you? Do you have a boundary/guideline you use to determine how many activities you say yes to?  

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