Is “happily ever after” a myth or reality? Unfortunately, most couples don’t ride off into the sunset after their honeymoon. Marriage is hard, and maybe you are in a place where you feel that today.
Our guests, Bob and Dannah Gresh, have been there. They decided, like Mark and I did, to participate in God’s redemption story for their marriage. Together, they discovered something better than romance—a love that endures—and you can too! Whether your relationship is struggling from pornography, addiction, an affair, broken trust, or years of unhappiness, Jesus Christ can help you redeem the broken places in your marriage.
We are so glad to have Bob and Dannah Gresh with us! Dannah is a bestselling author and sought-after teacher. She is the co-host of Revive Our Hearts, a daily podcast for women, and the founder of True Girl, which provides mother-and-daughter connection tools. Bob is the founder of a new model in Christian education known as Grace Prep. Dannah has recently released her book, Happily Even After, which is all about their story of battling pornography and lust together.
In this conversation, you’ll hear:
- Hope for finding “happy” after you’ve experienced hurt
- Why it’s vital to include your spouse in repentance and healing
- The importance of improving your skills in marriage
- And much more!
I hope you are encouraged and that this conversation strengthens your marriage!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- [BOOK] Happily Even After: Let God Redeem Your Marriage
- Happily Even After Podcast
- Connect with Bob & Dannah on their Instagram, Facebook, or website
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) You can’t overcome this alone. Whatever pain you are experiencing in your marriage—whether that be pornography, addiction, an affair, broken trust, or unhappiness—you can’t overcome it alone. It is important to include your spouse in the process. Whether you realize it or not, what you are struggling with already affects your spouse, even if you don’t think they know about it. To find healing and restoration, you need people around you to support and challenge you.
2) Forgiveness requires work on both your parts. You read that right! Even if your spouse is the one that caused your hurt, you both have work to do to achieve forgiveness. Even though your spouse caused your hurt, it’s still up to you to do your part by seeking treatment for your wounds. Your healing and forgiveness should not depend on your spouse getting better and fixing you. You must do the work to address your own wounds whether or not your spouse ever repents.
3) Having a “happily ever after” takes work and practice. The fairy tale version of “happily ever after” is a myth. However, you can have a love that endures! This takes a lot of work and requires that you learn new skills. These are skills like good communication, conflict resolution, learning attachment styles, and more! Just because you are an adult doesn’t mean you have the necessary skills to build a happy, healthy marriage. These skills are something that are learned and have to be practiced. You may consider hiring a coach or therapist to help you develop these skills individually or as a couple.
About Bob and Dannah Gresh:
Bob and Dannah Gresh are a couple that has participated in God’s redemption story for their marriage. Dannah is a bestselling author and sought-after teacher. She is the co-host of Revive Our Hearts, a daily podcast for women, and the founder of True Girl which provides mother-and-daughter connection tools. Bob is the founder of a new model in Christian education known as Grace Prep. Dannah has recently released her book, Happily Even After, which is all about their story of battling pornography and lust together. They live in State College, PA on a small farm.
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