When was your last conflict? Whether it was a spat with your spouse or a clash with a close friend, odds are it felt pretty intense. Most likely, it made you feel disconnected from a person you really care about.
Most of us don’t think of conflict as a way of connecting in a relationship. In fact, I think most of us would describe it as the opposite! My guest, however, wants to change that perspective.
Dana Che Williams is a speaker, a writer, a marriage coach, and the host of the Rebuilding Us podcast. She loves to encourage, empower, and equip people to step up more confidently and courageously in their lives and relationships.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why we should consider conflict an opportunity for connection
- How conflict shows us areas of personal growth
- The good things that await you on the other side of conflict
- And so much more!
Listen in!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- The Partner Quiz
- The Wait is Not Wasted
- Listen to Dana’s podcast, Rebuilding Us, on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
- BONUS: Why Marriage Should Be 70/30, Not 50/50
- Connect with Dana on her website, Facebook, or Instagram
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) Consider what conflict might reveal about yourself. When we have a conflict with our spouse, close friend, or family member, a whole lot will be exposed about ourselves in the process. We may discover that something in our past is affecting how we respond in the present. This is what I like to refer to as “owning your stuff”. To have a healthy marriage, both you and your spouse need to do the hard work of personal growth and healing. And the same is true for all your interpersonal relationships! When you find yourself at odds with a loved one, start by asking, “Is this conflict revealing something I need to work on?”
2) Utilize prayer to support your spouse. Look, I’ll be the first to tell you how tempting it is to point out all the ways your spouse may be failing or spotlight every part of themselves they need to work on. However, I’ll also be the one to tell you that this approach doesn’t work! Instead, we need to harness the power of prayer and allow God to do His work in His own timing.
3) Hold on through the hard. Even if your relationship is good now, every couple has to walk through hard times at some point. When those difficult seasons pop up, whether they arise from circumstances outside of your control or your own sinful nature, hold on through the hard. We must cling to God through our conflicts and hold onto the hope of what’s on the other side of that conflict—a closer connection with our spouse and with God.
About Dana:
Dana Che Williams is a speaker, a writer, a marriage coach, and the host of the Rebuilding Us podcast. She loves to encourage, empower, and equip people to step up more confidently and courageously in their lives and relationships. She’s known for her graceful candor—telling it like it is without making you cry. She has been married for nearly 25 years to her husband, Shaun. She lives in Virginia Beach, VA with her husband and their four children.
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