Several years ago, we decided to step into unfamiliar territory by taking some ballroom dancing lessons.  We made the weekly Monday night lessons our date night, often stopping for coffee or dessert afterwards.  Dancing has become a shared hobby for us…and shared hobbies is what today’s Marriage Monday is all about.

Mark says…
I have always wanted us to do something fun together.  I once gave Jill a bowling ball for Christmas.  Not because we bowled (we actually had never bowled at all!), but because I wanted us to have some fun together.

Jill says…
Mark has always suggested doing sports together…golf, racquetball, or bowling.  I’m not much of a sports person, but on occasion I would step into his world when he extended an invitation (the first time I played golf with him, I beat him.  He says he was just in shock that I was joining him on the golf course.  In all honesty, however, I’ve never beat him again.)

Mark says…
When Jill first suggested we take dance lessons, I was less than excited.  I have two left feet.  I have ADHD and it’s hard for me to keep focused on something.  I just couldn’t imagine this could be fun.  But I so badly wanted us to do something together that I said yes.

Honestly, the first few lessons were overwhelming, but we hung in there.  And before you knew it, we were dancing and having fun together!  We’ve mastered swing dancing and the two-step.  Now we’re working on rhumba, salsa, and more!

Jill says…
But the topic today isn’t about taking dance lessons together…it’s about doing SOMETHING together.  We know one couple who enjoys fishing together.  Another couple we know started wine-making together.  Some friends of ours enjoy antiquing together.  Another couple we recently chatted with enjoy motorcycle riding together.

Mark says…
When we talk with couples about their shared hobby, sometimes we find it started as one spouse’s hobby and the other one joined in.  Still others, like us with our dance lessons, found something they could learn together.

Jill says…
Good marriages happen when couples take time to nurture their relationship and create commonality in some way.  Yes, it means we sometimes have to do something that doesn’t initially excite us.  And occasionally a couple will have to try several activities before they find the right one for them.

Mark says…
Jill and I recently re-committed to dancing together.  Dance lessons aren’t in our budget right now, but we’re making good use of YouTube dance lesson videos.  We also recently learned about Sunday afternoon dances at a local ballroom that only cost $5/person.  Now that is in our budget and we’ve started dancing again.

What about you?  Do you have a shared hobby in your marriage?  What is it and how do you find the time to make your shared hobby a priority?

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