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NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
Is There Really Sex After Kids?
My Heart is Broken
I Really Messed Up
ARTICLEs
Dear Parent Who Made a Mistake
Dear parent who made a mistake, There's been something on my mind lately that I'd like to share with you. I don't know how "big" or "small" the mistake was. I don't know how deep the roots go on the issue. We could be talking about raising your voice when you...
The Marriage Manifesto | #MarriageMonday
Marriage is our passion. When Mark and I went through our marriage crisis now almost 10 years ago, we weren’t sure what the outcome would be. Trust had been broken. Tensions were high. (You can find the full story here.) But as we’ve experienced healing and now...
Before & After: What a Marriage Intensive Can Do for Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Mark and I have the opportunity to host marriage intensives in our home, and it is truly one of our favorite aspects of the ministry we do. Today I want to share with you why that is. Our marriage intensives are a 3-day marriage retreat spent at our home here in...
Why Discussions of No Decision are Important in Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Mark: Have you ever felt like your spouse is slow at making decisions? Or have you ever been on the other side feeling like your voice isn't being heard when a decision is being made? Do you ever sit down to have a discussion and end up arguing over whose perspective...
When You Feel Like Checking Out of Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Mark: When marriage gets stale (and it does for all of us!), there's a temptation to check out. We reason that if it feels like our spouse doesn't care, then we won't care. Or we tell ourselves that we're the only one trying and we're tired of being the only one...
10 Hedges to Protect Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
We have a line of trees along the west side of our country home. The previous owners wisely planted the trees to provide a hedge of protection against the winds that gust across the cornfields of central Illinois. Those trees serve as a visual picture of another hedge...
Podcast
Moving from Jill 1.0 to Jill 2.0 | Episode 240
Dear Mark & Jill, I listen to your podcast every week and I love it. It seems like when you are talking together, we hear a lot more about what Mark did wrong before and during your marriage crisis. I identify more...
Managing Emotions with Alicia Michelle | Episode 239
As a coach, one of the things I do most often is help people learn how to manage their emotions in a healthy way. The human capacity to feel is God-given. However, when our feelings go unchecked, that's when emotional ups...
Understanding Confirmation Bias in Relationships | Episode 238
Mark and I are excited to bring you another special episode with just the two of us! In this conversation, we are talking about confirmation bias. It’s something we have experienced in our own relationship and we see it...
Healing Your Family After Broken Trust | Episode 236
The topic of this episode was inspired by a question submitted by one of our listeners: What does it take to heal a family after trust has been broken? How do you acknowledge the wider influence of pain, and where do you go...
Trusting God In Spite of Curveballs with Rebecca St. James & Cubbie Fink | Episode 235
One of the things we say time and time again is that the "perfection infection" happens when we compare our insides to other people’s outsides. When we do this, we often come up with inaccurate conclusions about ourselves...
Midlife Marriages | Episode 234
What is a “Midlife Marriage”? It’s the season of life that begins after the whirlwind of kids’ soccer practices, dance recitals, and endless extracurriculars comes to an end—when the nest is empty, and it’s just you and...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
