How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship When You’ve Been Betrayed

Rebuilding trust after your spouse has betrayed you is hard — no matter the reason for the betrayal. Maybe your spouse lied to you. Maybe they left you out of an important financial decision and now you’re both suffering because of it. Maybe they’re addicted to...

Dear Younger Me

Dear younger me, We just had another birthday. It’s probably hard for you to believe (it’s hard for me to believe too), but this was number 58! What a life we’ve had so far. I look back at you and think of how much you have left to learn and to...

Healing From Painful Memories After Infidelity | #MarriageMonday

On today’s #MarriageMonday, I’m answering an email that was sent in about the difficult journey of healing from painful memories after infidelity. Sometimes there are photos, destinations, people, or other triggers that bring up strong emotions, often...

An Open Letter to the Person Struggling with Valentine’s Day

Dear Friend, In February of 2012, Valentine’s Day was anything but enjoyable for me. Twelve days earlier, my husband had left and my world was turned upside down. Not only that, but infidelity was a part of why he left, so there was a double-whammy on my heart....

Straight Talk To The Guy Thinking About Leaving His Marriage

Our thoughts are powerful. I remember the thoughts that caused me to leave my marriage twelve years ago. Those same thoughts fueled the affair I ended up having. And I’m reminded of those messages every time I spend time with a guy in crisis, because what...

BONUS: Be Reassuring

Welcome to our fourth bonus episode of the No More Perfect Podcast! I like to surprise you with a little extra, bite-size podcast goodness every once in a while that’s quick to listen to and helpful for your life. Just to say thank you! And today’s episode...

Dear Parent Who Made a Mistake

Dear parent who made a mistake, There’s been something on my mind lately that I’d like to share with you. I don’t know how “big” or “small” the mistake was. I don’t know how deep the roots go on the issue. We could be...

The Marriage Manifesto | #MarriageMonday

Marriage is our passion. When Mark and I went through our marriage crisis now almost 10 years ago, we weren’t sure what the outcome would be. Trust had been broken. Tensions were high. (You can find the full story here.) But as we’ve experienced healing and now...