I am a girl who had a daddy who loved her like Jesus loves us. My dad passed away almost four years ago, and although he wasn’t perfect, he exuded Christ in his daily life and it showed in the way he expressed his love for me.
Not everyone has a good relationship or fond memories of their fathers. Mark’s experience of his father was just the opposite of mine. He carried the pain and impact of his father wounds into adulthood. As a result, he’s had a lot of healing to do.
Today, we are talking about father wounds, and it’s a topic that my guest understands well. Kia Stephens is the founder of Entrusted Women, and a contributing author for iBelieve.com and Proverbs 31 Ministries. She’s also the author of a book titled Overcoming Father Wounds: Exchanging Your Pain for God’s Perfect Love.
In this conversation, you’ll hear:
- What a father wound looks like
- The different types of father wounds we may carry
- How God the Father is different from our earthly fathers
- And much more!
Whatever kind of relationship you had with your dad, I hope this will be an encouragement to you!
Resources mentioned in this episode:
- [BOOK] Overcoming Father Wounds: Exchanging Your Pain for God’s Perfect Love
- [BOOK] The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
- Podcast: Hope for Women with Father Wounds
- Focus on the Family Counseling Consultation
- Hope and Healing for Imperfect Mother-Daughter Relationships with Debbie Alsdorf | Episode 125
- Connect with Kia on her website, Facebook, or Instagram
- As a thank you for listening, get your 3 free eBooks.
My Key Takeaways:
1) A father wound can be small. A father wound doesn’t have to be something big like your father abandoning you or causing significant harm emotionally or physically. A father wound can be something small, like never coming to your soccer games or taking the time to teach you a skill. It can be anything that was missing from your relationship with your father that you may see in another father-child relationship.
2) Healing won’t happen automatically. These wounds are not something we can push down or brush under the rug. They will not go away if we do not take the time to understand and do the work to heal. A good place to start is by identifying what father wounds you have. You might do this by committing to reading Kia’s book or working with a counselor to dig in further to your upbringing.
3) God is not the same as our earthly father. God is so much more than our earthly fathers. The glimpse of what we see in our earthly father is nothing when compared to our heavenly Father. He is so much more than the glimpses we get from our earthly fathers. God is perfect, and our earthly fathers are flawed. It’s important to take the time to discover who God is and how He is the perfect father.
About Kia:
Kia Stephens is a speaker, author, and the founder of Entrusted Women. She is a contributing writer for iBelieve.com and Proverbs 31 Ministries. Kia is a wife and a mother of two children. She makes a mean mac n’ cheese and loves writing, speaking, teaching, and encouraging women.
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