The Essentials of Affair Recovery | Episode 141

Our marriage went off the tracks in 2011, when Mark was in a full-on midlife crisis, affair included. It would take us two years to move from being on the verge of divorce to a healed and improved Mark & Jill 2.0. I wouldn’t wish anyone to go through infidelity;...

Healing From Painful Memories After Infidelity | #MarriageMonday

On today’s #MarriageMonday, I’m answering an email that was sent in about the difficult journey of healing from painful memories after infidelity. Sometimes there are photos, destinations, people, or other triggers that bring up strong emotions, often...

When Words DON’T Matter in Marriage | #MarriageMonday

This week on #MarriageMonday, we’re following-up on our post last month all about the power of our words. But this time, we’re talking about the one scenario where words really aren’t the most important thing! Jill: Ask any marriage expert about the...

Got the Tingles?

Mark: Jill and I spent this past weekend with over 2500 moms at the North Central Regional Hearts at Home Conference.  While I go with her to serve and work the conference, I also get the opportunity to hear some wonderful speakers. At this conference, I really...

When Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work

Mark says: Jill and I have always been proponents of marriage counseling. We’ve talked about it openly in our marriage and tried our best to help couples know that “asking for help” is an important part of the marriage journey. Jill says: ...

Marriage Monday: No More Perfect Marriages Resources

There were so many resources that helped us on our No More Perfect Marriages journey. (You can find all of our posts in the No More Perfect Marriages series here.) Today we’d like to share them with you. The first resource we want you to know about is a FREE...

Day 10: There Is Hope and Healing

This is Day 10 of a 10 day No More Perfect Marriages series chronicling our journey from infidelity to restoration. You can click here and find all of the posts in this series. Jill says: Mark returned home two months after Easter.  We continued counseling for another...

Day 9: The Marriage Fade That Begins With Avoiding Emotion

This is Day 9 of a 10 day No More Perfect Marriages series chronicling our journey from infidelity to restoration. You can click here and find all of the posts in this series. Mark says: When sharing my story with others, I have often said that I identify with Peter...

Day 7: The Marriage Fade that Begins With Not Accepting

This is Day 7 of a 10 day No More Perfect Marriages series chronicling our journey from infidelity to restoration. You can click here and find all of the posts in this series. Today we’re offering the perspective of one of our children. Our oldest daughter, Anne, will...

Day 6: The Marriage Fade the Starts with Naïveté

This is Day 6 of a 10 day series. You can find the other days here. Mark says: In all areas of my life: in ministry, in my job, with God, and in my marriage, I didn’t feel like I was “enough.” It felt like I was falling short in every relationship I had. The only...

Day 5: The Marriage Fade that Starts w/ Minimizing

This is Day 5 of a 10 day series. You can find the other days here. Jill says: I sat across from my emotionally closed off husband in the marriage counselors office. He indicated that he knew the affair was wrong, but he did not want to stop it. Mark says: I had shut...

Day 4: The Marriage Fade that Starts w/ Defensiveness

This is Day 4 of a 10 day series. You can find the other days here. Mark says: Yesterday we talked about pursuing honest communication. One of the biggest blocks to honest conversations are defensive responses.  Defensive responses are self-justifying and...

No More Perfect Marriages Day 2: It’s a Slow Fade

Thanks so much for joining us! This is Day 2 of an 10 day blog series. You can find the entire series here.   Mark says: After our trip to Florida, I began talking regularly with an old girlfriend on Facebook.  She had gone through a divorce and we had briefly...

No More Perfect Marriages–A 10 Day Blog Series

Jill says: Some of you have been hanging around here for a long time and you may remember when I shared about Mark leaving 3 years ago and then several months later about him coming home. Some of you are newer friends and aren’t aware that my marriage has been through...