Do you find yourself defining life by before and after the hurt? I’ve been there. When Mark walked away from our marriage, I was overwhelmed by the painful breach of trust. My heart was ripped to pieces and I wasn’t sure I would ever experience joy again. If you’re...
After we healed our marriage from infidelity and started sharing our story, we found that we could hardly keep up with the emails from others in a similar situation as us. Over the years, we’ve strived to be open and honest about the dysfunction that caused our...
Dear Mark and Jill, I really messed up. I did something I shouldn’t have, and in the process, I betrayed my spouse’s trust. When they found out, I knew I needed to come clean and take full responsibility. I’ve answered their questions honestly and...
Mark and I had the opportunity to bring hope and help on the Pure Sex Podcast in this episode they titled From Betrayal to Bonding. We hope this brings you help and hope as well!
“I don’t know how this could ever work. I just don’t feel like my spouse and I love each other like we used to. This is too hard, and our children will be better off if we separate.” If you’ve had these kind of thoughts, you aren’t alone—especially if...
Did you know that your attachment style will determine how you form relationships, interact with others, and respond to conflict? We talk about attachment styles often because it was the number one thing that helped us understand how we relate to one another within...
Jill: Disagreements are bound to come up in any relationship, but they can lead to even bigger arguments as you merge your life with another person in marriage. Mark and I are no different! We’ve had disagreements over how to remodel our kitchen, how the dishes go...
Jill: When was the last time you and your spouse talked? I mean really talked. Not about the kids’ grades, your family schedule, or who’s taking the kids to basketball practices. True, connecting conversations that include listening to one another’s dreams and hopes,...
Infidelity: it’s not something we ever thought would be part of our story, but it happened to us. And we healed. Now God is allowing us to bring hope and help to those who are walking a similar journey. If you’re here because the bottom has just dropped...
My husband, Mark, and I have been married for 38 years now. In our nearly four decades together, we’ve made many beautiful memories and witnessed God do amazing things. We’ve ministered in churches across the U.S. (including the one Mark pastored for 20 years.)...
Life is an adventure, isn’t it? (That’s definitely an understatement!) At some point or another, we all need some support through the highs and lows of what the journey of life includes. Sometimes you find yourself in circumstances you never expected. Your...
For this #MarriageMonday, I am sharing an adapted excerpt from my book My Heart is Broken: Your Next Steps for When Your Spouse is Unfaithful. When we are betrayed in our marriage, or when any hard things happen in our life, what can we hold on to for stability? “I’m...
“I’m leaving. I have no intention of returning. I’m pursuing the other relationship and I want a divorce.” Jill: The hardest day of my life was when I heard those words. My husband walked out of the house and my whole life turned upside down. Mark: When I uttered...
Mark: When Jill and I look back at what contributed to the dark season in our marriage, we found that it wasn’t the big things that made a difference. It was actually the little things that simmered under the surface. These things began an unraveling that gained...
Mark: I didn’t realize coming into marriage how much idealism and unrealistic expectations drove my everyday thinking and perspective. When my expectations weren’t met, my “slow fade of unrealistic expectations” led to disappointment and discouragement....
