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NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.

ARTICLEs
Trust Buckets: How Rebuilding Trust in a Marriage Works | #MarriageMonday
In today's #MarriageMonday, we're talking about the trust bucket each of us have in marriage, and the truth about what it looks like to refill that bucket after trust is broken. Jill: Stephen Covey once said, "Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential...
How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship When You’ve Been Betrayed
Rebuilding trust after your spouse has betrayed you is hard — no matter the reason for the betrayal. Maybe your spouse lied to you. Maybe they left you out of an important financial decision and now you’re both suffering because of it. Maybe they’re addicted to...
Why Can’t You Be Normal Like Me? (6 Core Differences in Many Marriages & a Free Quiz!) | #MarriageMonday
On today's #MarriageMonday, we're diving into differences! We all have them, but they can move from fascinations while we're dating to frustrations when we get married. Let's talk about it! Jill: We're all different. That's no secret. But it's funny how quickly...
Dear Younger Me
Dear younger me, We just had another birthday. It's probably hard for you to believe (it's hard for me to believe too), but this was number 58! What a life we've had so far. I look back at you and think of how much you have left to learn and to experience. In many...
Healing From Painful Memories After Infidelity | #MarriageMonday
On today's #MarriageMonday, I'm answering an email that was sent in about the difficult journey of healing from painful memories after infidelity. Sometimes there are photos, destinations, people, or other triggers that bring up strong emotions, often unexpectedly. So...
An Open Letter to the Person Struggling with Valentine’s Day
Dear Friend, In February of 2012, Valentine's Day was anything but enjoyable for me. Twelve days earlier, my husband had left and my world was turned upside down. Not only that, but infidelity was a part of why he left, so there was a double-whammy on my heart. Here's...
Podcast
Understanding Confirmation Bias in Relationships | Episode 238
Mark and I are excited to bring you another special episode with just the two of us! In this conversation, we are talking about confirmation bias. It’s something we have experienced in our own relationship and we see it time and time again in the couples we coach....
Healing Your Family After Broken Trust | Episode 236
The topic of this episode was inspired by a question submitted by one of our listeners: What does it take to heal a family after trust has been broken? How do you acknowledge the wider influence of pain, and where do you go from there? As marriage coaches, we often...
Trusting God In Spite of Curveballs with Rebecca St. James & Cubbie Fink | Episode 235
One of the things we say time and time again is that the "perfection infection" happens when we compare our insides to other people’s outsides. When we do this, we often come up with inaccurate conclusions about ourselves AND others. Falling into the trap of the...
Midlife Marriages | Episode 234
What is a “Midlife Marriage”? It’s the season of life that begins after the whirlwind of kids’ soccer practices, dance recitals, and endless extracurriculars comes to an end—when the nest is empty, and it’s just you and your spouse, rediscovering life together. As...
How to Make Prayer Part of Your Marriage | Episode 232
What role does prayer play in your marriage? For us, prayer has been a profoundly positive force in our lives—both as individuals and as a couple. When it comes to strengthening your marriage, there are many tools and strategies to explore, but prayer is one you...
Healthy Relationship Rhythms for Your Marriage with Chris and Jenni Graebe | Episode 231
Have you ever felt out of sync with your spouse? Some days it can feel like you are on two different planets and you just can’t seem to get on the same page. Our guests for this episode can relate! They are the authors of The Rhythm of Us and co-hosts of a podcast by...
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