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NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
Is There Really Sex After Kids?
My Heart is Broken
I Really Messed Up
ARTICLEs
The Strength in Letting Go: Why Surrender Sets Us Free
After we healed our marriage from infidelity and started sharing our story, we found that we could hardly keep up with the emails from others in a similar situation as us. Over the years, we've strived to be open and honest about the dysfunction that caused our...
“My Spouse Forgave Me. Why Does My Marriage Not Feel the Same?”
Dear Mark and Jill, I really messed up. I did something I shouldn't have, and in the process, I betrayed my spouse's trust. When they found out, I knew I needed to come clean and take full responsibility. I've answered their questions honestly and expressed how I...
From Betrayal to Bonding
Mark and I had the opportunity to bring hope and help on the Pure Sex Podcast in this episode they titled From Betrayal to Bonding. We hope this brings you help and hope as well!
Thinking About Leaving Your Marriage After the Holidays? | #MarriageMonday
"I don’t know how this could ever work. I just don’t feel like my spouse and I love each other like we used to. This is too hard, and our children will be better off if we separate." If you’ve had these kind of thoughts, you aren’t alone—especially if they're hitting...
Your Guide to Attachment Styles | #MarriageMonday
Did you know that your attachment style will determine how you form relationships, interact with others, and respond to conflict? We talk about attachment styles often because it was the number one thing that helped us understand how we relate to one another within...
6 Disarming Phrases to Disagree Well | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Disagreements are bound to come up in any relationship, but they can lead to even bigger arguments as you merge your life with another person in marriage. Mark and I are no different! We’ve had disagreements over how to remodel our kitchen, how the dishes go...
Podcast
The Deep-Rooted Marriage with Dan Allender | Episode 248
Every marriage is an ongoing story with its own highs and lows, joys and difficulties. Depending on which season we are in, we may start to see marriage as the best thing that has ever happened to us or the source of our angst. If you’ve been following our journey...
Managing Expectations in Marriage | Episode 247
©2025 FamilyLife. All Rights Reserved. Used with permission. If we're being completely honest, many of us enter into marriage with stars in our eyes and the hope that our spouse will live up to our every expectation. Isn't it funny how we can spend months preparing...
Making Marriage Easier with Arlene Pellicane | Episode 246
Have you heard some variation of this before? "Marriage is hard. It’s unfair. One of you will always pull more weight. Marriage doesn’t make you happy; it makes you miserable." I'd like to push back against that pessimistic mindset. Yes, it’s true that...
When a Loved One Hurts | Episode 245
When a loved one hurts, it can be hard to know how to respond and support them through the crisis or pain they feel. Our first response is often to jump straight into “fix it” mode or lighten the mood by offering platitudes. However, the key to true comfort lies in a...
One Choice Away from Change with Justin and Trish Davis | Episode 244
If you know my husband Mark and I, then you know we are passionate about moving people from a 1.0 version of themselves to a new-and-improved 2.0 version. We’ve taken this journey ourselves and know the difference it can make in your relationships, as well as how you...
How to Uncover Your Baggage | Episode 243
Everyone has baggage. We carry it around with us everywhere–into marriage, adulthood, and every aspect of our lives. It’s part of being human, and while there’s no shame in having baggage, it’s important to take the time to consider how the behaviors we've picked up...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
