When your marriage is going through a hard season, you can start to feel stuck. Maybe there was a big blowup after infidelity or some other form of betrayal was discovered. Maybe you bicker so much that it’s hard to remember the last time you and your...
I (Mark) know firsthand that after you’ve engaged in an affair, it’s tempting to not share all of your actions with your spouse. However, this will not spare them the pain. It will INCREASE their pain because it’s very likely those indiscretions will be...
Mark: When trust has been broken in a relationship, we can often encounter triggers long after reconciliation has occurred. Jill: We could be triggered by big or small things. Anything that reminds us of the betrayal can take our minds, and our hearts, right back to...
Will things ever go back to the way they were? What led us down this path…how did we get here? What would a healing journey even look like? Jill: These were the kinds of questions I was wrestling with during my season of waiting. In the end, it was a little...
“Yes, I’m having an affair, and I’m not going to stop.” It was with these words that Mark walked away from our marriage with no intention of ever returning. Infidelity and broken trust have been a significant part of our story—but they’re not the end of...
February is a month devoted to professing our love for one another. However, in February of 2012, Valentine’s Day was anything but enjoyable for me. Twelve days earlier, on February 4th, Mark had left, and my entire world was turned upside down. Not only that, but...
Do you find yourself defining life by before and after the hurt? I’ve been there. When Mark walked away from our marriage, I was overwhelmed by the painful breach of trust. My heart was ripped to pieces and I wasn’t sure I would ever experience joy again. If you’re...
After we healed our marriage from infidelity and started sharing our story, we found that we could hardly keep up with the emails from others in a similar situation as us. Over the years, we’ve strived to be open and honest about the dysfunction that caused our...
Dear Mark and Jill, I really messed up. I did something I shouldn’t have, and in the process, I betrayed my spouse’s trust. When they found out, I knew I needed to come clean and take full responsibility. I’ve answered their questions honestly and...
Jill: We can tend to think of marriage as a fantasy love story where two people find each other, fall in love, and all the details fall into place like magic. They head off into the sunset to find their happily ever after. Mark: The reality is quite a bit messier....
Mark and I had the opportunity to bring hope and help on the Pure Sex Podcast in this episode they titled From Betrayal to Bonding. We hope this brings you help and hope as well!
“I don’t know how this could ever work. I just don’t feel like my spouse and I love each other like we used to. This is too hard, and our children will be better off if we separate.” If you’ve had these kind of thoughts, you aren’t alone—especially if...
Did you know that your attachment style will determine how you form relationships, interact with others, and respond to conflict? We talk about attachment styles often because it was the number one thing that helped us understand how we relate to one another within...
Infidelity: it’s not something we ever thought would be part of our story, but it happened to us. And we healed. Now God is allowing us to bring hope and help to those who are walking a similar journey. If you’re here because the bottom has just dropped...
My husband, Mark, and I have been married for 38 years now. In our nearly four decades together, we’ve made many beautiful memories and witnessed God do amazing things. We’ve ministered in churches across the U.S. (including the one Mark pastored for 20 years.)...
