When Your Marriage Feels Dead | #MarriageMonday

This week on #MarriageMonday, we’re sharing a response we shared with someone who recently reached out to us. If your marriage also feels dead in some ways right now, we want you to know that you’re not alone. Dear Mark and Jill: Our marriage feels dead....

4 Principles for Our Words in Marriage | #MarriageMonday

Jill: Welcome back to #MarriageMonday! Today, we are taking a look at the power of our words. Our words are powerful, and that power can be used both positively and destructively. When Mark and I think of our marriage before crisis and our marriage after crisis, we’ve...

When Anger Hurts Your Marriage

Jill: Over the past two months, we’ve found that anger is a recurring theme with many of the couples we are coaching. For some it’s always been there and for others, the quarantine life is increasing or introducing anger. Mark: In our early years, my anger...

What Is Your Response to Conflict?

Mark: Conflict handled without care can bring out the worst in us. Unless we’re intentional about responding rather than reacting, we can end up with a mess to clean up. Jill: It’s rare that we both haven’t contributed to the mess in some way. So we...

The Top Books That Influenced Our Marriage

Jill: We’re often asked what the top books are that we read for our marriage.  To be honest, initially I was the reader in the relationship.  I would summarize to Mark what I’d read. In fact, I actually wrote my Is There Really Sex After Kids book that...

Six Healthy Ways to Express Frustration

Mark: Two weeks ago, the headlines in our local paper read: “Woman shot husband over lack of attention.”  Such a sad story and an extreme way to handle frustration. Jill: Most of us have been frustrated with our spouse being distant or distracted at one time or...

The Myth of “I Don’t Love You Anymore”

It’s happened again.  Yesterday we learned of another family that has been broken up because one person in the marriage says, “I don’t love you anymore.” There’s a common misconception that married couples will always “feel”...

Don’t Go Relivin’ What You Have Forgiven

Jill says: Even when you’re moving forward, it’s easy to want to bring up the past. Mark says: It’s the human side of us that wants to throw something back into play that we settled in our heart or relationship a while ago. Jill says: Just this past...