Are You Comparing Insides to Outsides?

Jill: Since the release of my book No More Perfect Moms, I’ve spent the past four years asking moms to stop comparing their insides to other women’s outsides. When we do this, we perpetuate what I call the Perfection Infection where we have unrealistic expectations of...

Can You Experience PTSD in Marriage?

Jill: A week ago Mark and I took a motorcycle ride with friends. As we rounded a corner I suddenly realized we were driving by a place where deception in our marriage took place five years ago.  I immediately began to have a physical response. My heart rate increased...

Are You Chasing Soul Mirages?

Mark: We’ve all seen them on a hot day. Up ahead, it looks like there’s a sheet of water on the road. As we get closer, we realize there’s no water there at all. It’s a mirage caused by the heat mixed with light in just the right way. Jill: We’ve all experienced soul...

The Key to Happy Holidays

Mark: Fall is in the air and that means the major holidays of Thanksgiving and Christmas are around the corner.  Have you talked with your spouse about your plans for the holidays? Jill: It may seem too early to do that, but we’re not talking as much about...

Need to Recalculate?

Mark: “Recalculating,” states the voice on the GPS unit. “Recalculating,” she repeats once again as we find ourselves off course on a trip. It’s a scene most of us are familiar with in some way now that smartphone map apps and GPS units are built right into our cars....

The Importance of Re-Entry

Jill: This week I’m on the road speaking. While Mark travels with me much of the time, it didn’t work for this trip. So we’re already looking ahead to a re-entry plan. Mark: Military families are schooled on the concept of re-entry after dealing with...

Marriage Is A Labor of Love

Mark: It’s Labor Day. For some of us it’s a day filled with family, friends, and picnic food. For others, it’s a day to work on home projects. And still others are just enjoying that extra day provided in this 3-day weekend. Jill: Labor Day signals...

The Lure of Happiness

Jill: I remember the day well. It was about a month after Mark had moved back home. He came home from work, smiled, and said to me, “Do you know what I realized today?” “No, what?” I replied. “I realized I’m happy. I’m actually happy!” he...

Untangle Your Heart

Mark: It was my anger. No, it wasn’t expressed outwardly. I wasn’t raging or blowing my top. Instead the anger was simmering inside of me. I was building a case in my heart against Jill. Everyday I operated as the prosecuting attorney who focused on my own...

The Gift of Grace

Jill: Mark loves his coffee. I love Mark but I’m not particularly fond of his coffee. It seems I find coffee rings and coffee splotches everywhere. In the car. On the floor. On the table beside his chair (he takes the concept of “coffee table” to a whole new level!)....

Will You Come Out And Play With Me?

Mark: The last 9 months we’ve been working hard both on the book and on our kitchen remodel. We were in desperate need of some down time. Jill: Years ago I remember reading Willard Harley’s book His Needs…Her Needs and learning that one of the needs...

Your Spouse Isn’t The Person You Married

Jill: Today is Mark’s birthday! Happy Happy Birthday to my man! Mark: You know, it’s always been important to me to have a big, birthday celebration. Interestingly, the older I get, I desire smaller celebrations. Jill: Which brings us to today’s...

We’re done!

Mark: We’re done!  The manuscript for No More Perfect Marriages is being turned in today! Jill: We’re so excited, we’re doing backflips over here. Mark: Well we would if we could! Jill: The last two weeks have been a little crazy trying to get this...

There’s A Whole Lot More God In Me

Mark: Jill and I spent the weekend in Cincinnati. She had the privilege of speaking at the AWSA (Advanced Writers and Speakers Association) conference on Saturday. We decided to stay an extra day since Saturday was our anniversary. Jill: Getting away to have couple...