When a loved one hurts, it can be hard to know how to respond and support them through the crisis or pain they feel. Our first response is often to jump straight into “fix it” mode or lighten the mood by offering platitudes. However, the key to true comfort lies in a...
If you know my husband Mark and I, then you know we are passionate about moving people from a 1.0 version of themselves to a new-and-improved 2.0 version. We’ve taken this journey ourselves and know the difference it can make in your relationships, as well as how you...
Everyone has baggage. We carry it around with us everywhere–into marriage, adulthood, and every aspect of our lives. It’s part of being human, and while there’s no shame in having baggage, it’s important to take the time to consider how the behaviors we’ve...
Mark and I are excited to bring you another special episode with just the two of us! In this conversation, we are talking about confirmation bias. It’s something we have experienced in our own relationship and we see it time and time again in the couples we coach....
Jill: When you marry your spouse, you are choosing to join your life together with theirs—and this means melding your dreams, your hopes, and your belongings, too! You also bring together your “baggage.” These are the burdens we all carry with us from our past...
Welcome to the last episode of the No More Perfect Podcast for 2024! At the end of each year, we like to take a moment to look back at everything that happened during the last 12 months and look ahead at all the opportunities the upcoming year holds. We’ve been...
It’s been a while since we had a bonus episode of the podcast! These are shorter episodes full of bite-sized encouragement and support that you can apply to your life today. In this episode, we are talking about marriage. Now you may have heard that marriage is...
Mark is back with me on the podcast today to help answer a question we hear often: “What makes the difference in people who are able to overcome difficult things?” This could be in regard to marriages that are restored or lives that experience growth and...
What do you do when you are offended? Do you quickly let it go, or do you sit and ruminate on it? If you, like most people, tend to do the latter, it can create bitterness, resentment, and pent-up anger in your life and in your heart. Living in a place where we are...
I had a birthday a little over two weeks ago. It was a mile-marker birthday. When you’re born in 1964, you turn 60 in 2024. From an experience perspective, I feel like sixty. I’ve experienced a lot in my sixty years. From a physical perspective, I don’t feel like...
Waiting is a natural part of the human experience. Each and every one of us will experience waiting numerous times throughout our lives. It may be waiting for physical healing, waiting for the prodigal to return home, waiting for relationships to mend or heal, waiting...
Did you know that “mom brain” is a real thing? It’s true! On an even deeper level, mom fatigue syndrome is real, it’s pervasive, and it creeps into every facet of a mom’s life. My guest, Hannah Keeley, has spent over 2 decades studying the brain and discovered that...
One of the things Mark and I talk about quite a bit are the Marriage 2.0 Intensives we have the opportunity to host at our home in Normal, IL. However, one of the questions we often get is, What happens at a marriage intensive? That’s what we want to share with you on...
Today I want to let you in on a little secret! I want to tell you the #1 myth people often have about marriage seminars (and honestly, marriage resources in general). But first I’ll start with a story… Earlier this spring, we were teaching our No More...
Our past, our upbringing, and our experiences in life don’t stay in the past. They are carried into our marriages and affect how we operate in our relationships. This is a topic that Mark and I cover a lot in our book No More Perfect Marriages and in our coaching with...