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NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
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My Heart is Broken
I Really Messed Up
ARTICLEs
Infidelity in Marriage: Risk Factors, Red Flags, and Recovery
My husband, Mark, and I have been married for 38 years now. In our nearly four decades together, we've made many beautiful memories and witnessed God do amazing things. We’ve ministered in churches across the U.S. (including the one Mark pastored for 20 years.) We’ve...
13 Books for Every Season of Life in Marriage and Parenting
Life is an adventure, isn’t it? (That's definitely an understatement!) At some point or another, we all need some support through the highs and lows of what the journey of life includes. Sometimes you find yourself in circumstances you never expected. Your marriage...
The Friend Who Understands: Encouragement For a Spouse Who Has Been Betrayed | #MarriageMonday
For this #MarriageMonday, I am sharing an adapted excerpt from my book My Heart is Broken: Your Next Steps for When Your Spouse is Unfaithful. When we are betrayed in our marriage, or when any hard things happen in our life, what can we hold on to for stability? “I’m...
5 Signs Your Spouse Isn’t Ready to Reengage In Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
“I’m leaving. I have no intention of returning. I’m pursuing the other relationship and I want a divorce.” Jill: The hardest day of my life was when I heard those words. My husband walked out of the house and my whole life turned upside down. Mark: When I uttered...
7 Negative Actions That Can Hurt Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Mark: When Jill and I look back at what contributed to the dark season in our marriage, we found that it wasn’t the big things that made a difference. It was actually the little things that simmered under the surface. These things began an unraveling that gained...
4 Tips to Increase Connection and Let Go of Resentment | #MarriageMonday
Mark: I didn’t realize coming into marriage how much idealism and unrealistic expectations drove my everyday thinking and perspective. When my expectations weren’t met, my "slow fade of unrealistic expectations" led to disappointment and discouragement. For years I...
Podcast
How Men Can Transform Their Marriages with Roy Wooten | Episode 272
When we stand at the altar and say “I do,” our eyes are filled with stars. We're certain we have found happily ever after. After the wedding day, we find out that this marriage stuff is way more complicated than we...
The Dog and Cat Marriage | Episode 271
Have you heard about the dog and cat marriage? It might sound like a crazy concept, but it’s one that has helped us not only understand each other, but also help other couples understand how attachment styles are impacting...
The Next Day Principle | Episode 269
What is the Next Day Principle? It's a practice that we have not only implemented in our own marriage and family, but it’s also something we recommend to other couples in our coaching all the time. It helps to slow down...
Surrendered Sexuality with Dr. Juli Slattery | Episode 268
As Christians, we are often unclear about God’s views on sex and intimacy. It can be a struggle to make sense of our temptations, shame, brokenness, longings, or desires. What is more, Christian churches and families are...
Finding Community in the Midst of Your Pain with Toni Collier | Episode 267
When brokenness strikes, it can feel impossible to know what to say or how to ask for help. Whether that brokenness is due to hard circumstances, an unexpected diagnosis, or the pain of a relationship ending, when we are...
How to Think About Differences Differently | Episode 266
Have you ever met someone who was not at all like you? Maybe their thinking, mannerisms, or outlook was so different from your own that you clashed or struggled to connect with them? The old proverb, "birds of a feather flock...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
