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to No More Perfect Marriages
HAVE A HURTING MARRIAGE?
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Books
NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
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My Heart is Broken
I Really Messed Up
ARTICLEs
The Strength in Letting Go: Why Surrender Sets Us Free
After we healed our marriage from infidelity and started sharing our story, we found that we could hardly keep up with the emails from others in a similar situation as us. Over the years, we've strived to be open and honest about the dysfunction that caused our...
How Do I Know What Baggage I Have? | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Do you carry emotional baggage around with you? If so, you’re not alone. We all have it, and at times, it may feel like we are weighed down by the burden of dragging it around from place to place. One of the hardest truths about baggage is that it doesn’t just...
How to Keep Dating Your Spouse (in Any Season of Marriage)
“Never stop dating your spouse.” You've probably heard this wisdom before and may have even tried to put it into practice. If you're not familiar with it, "dating" your spouse simply means making connection a regular priority even after you tie the knot. We always say...
20 Prayers for Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Jill: In every marriage, prayer is one of the most powerful tools we have in our toolbox. When we pray (together or on our own), we have the opportunity to align our own desires to God's. We also have the opportunity to talk directly to God lifting up to Him whatever...
“My Spouse Forgave Me. Why Does My Marriage Not Feel the Same?”
Dear Mark and Jill, I really messed up. I did something I shouldn't have, and in the process, I betrayed my spouse's trust. When they found out, I knew I needed to come clean and take full responsibility. I've answered their questions honestly and expressed how I...
5 Common Misconceptions About Marriage Coaching | #MarriageMonday
Jill: We can tend to think of marriage as a fantasy love story where two people find each other, fall in love, and all the details fall into place like magic. They head off into the sunset to find their happily ever after. Mark: The reality is quite a bit messier....
Podcast
Standing for Your Marriage with Jason Carver | Episode 250
If you're familiar with the journey Mark and I have walked together, then you know that I spent a year “standing for my marriage” while Mark had an affair and separated. (You can explore more about our story here.) It was the darkest season of my life—and also the...
How to Have Less Arguments in Your Marriage
Over the years, we've had our fair share of expectations that ended in disappointment—sometimes around big moments like birthdays, and other times over something as simple as how we spend a Saturday. It’s taken us a while to discover that what caused many of these...
The Deep-Rooted Marriage with Dan Allender | Episode 248
Every marriage is an ongoing story with its own highs and lows, joys and difficulties. Depending on which season we are in, we may start to see marriage as the best thing that has ever happened to us or the source of our angst. If you’ve been following our journey...
Managing Expectations in Marriage | Episode 247
©2025 FamilyLife. All Rights Reserved. Used with permission. If we're being completely honest, many of us enter into marriage with stars in our eyes and the hope that our spouse will live up to our every expectation. Isn't it funny how we can spend months preparing...
Making Marriage Easier with Arlene Pellicane | Episode 246
Have you heard some variation of this before? "Marriage is hard. It’s unfair. One of you will always pull more weight. Marriage doesn’t make you happy; it makes you miserable." I'd like to push back against that pessimistic mindset. Yes, it’s true that...
When a Loved One Hurts | Episode 245
When a loved one hurts, it can be hard to know how to respond and support them through the crisis or pain they feel. Our first response is often to jump straight into “fix it” mode or lighten the mood by offering platitudes. However, the key to true comfort lies in a...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
