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to No More Perfect Marriages
HAVE A HURTING MARRIAGE?
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Books
NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
Is There Really Sex After Kids?
My Heart is Broken
I Really Messed Up
ARTICLEs
Dear Frustrated: When You Want to Change Your Spouse
Dear Mark and Jill, I don’t like to be late to anything, and especially not to church. When I realize we'll be late, my energy is zapped, I get frustrated and shut down. My spouse, on the other hand, is less concerned with being on time. This has been a recurring...
What Our Uganda Trip Reminded Us About Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Jill: If you’ve been following us on Instagram and Facebook or seen some of our past blog posts, then you know that we recently traveled to Uganda to minister to the marriages of pastors there. Mark: We were also able to teach on relationships at Uganda Christian...
How to Know If You’re Ready to Rebuild Trust | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Mark and I often say that we have been married for 39 years—29 of them happily. Mark: That’s right. In the 10 unhappy years, our marriage was a mess in many ways. You wouldn’t have thought it looking in from the outside because we were doing everything “right.”...
4 Ways to Pray for Our Trip to Minister to Marriages in Uganda | #MarriageMonday
Mark: We've written this before we left, but you'll be reading this article right when we're in the middle of ministering to marriages in Uganda and Tanzania. Jill: That’s right! God literally connected dots that caused our lives to intersect with Daniel Tulibageny at...
7 Questions to Ask Your Spouse Approaching Summer | #MarriageMonday
Jill: You know, summer is one of my favorite seasons. The sun is out, I get to tend to my garden, and I love getting to enjoy time with our grandchildren while they are on school break. Mark: I do as well. Along with summer, though, comes busy schedules, BBQs to...
How to Have a Safe Conversation | #MarriageMonday
Jill: I think it’s accurate to say that most of our conversations as Mark & Jill 1.0 (before our crisis) were not very emotionally-safe conversations. But now as Mark & Jill 2.0 (since we have been intentionally investing in our marriage), our conversations...
Podcast
Standing Up When Life Knocks You Down with Courtney Joseph Fallick | Episode 217
Life is full of ups and downs. Each one of us will experience difficult seasons in life. During my darkest and most difficult season, one of the things I learned to say is “It is not well with my circumstances, but I want...
Attachment Styles in Marriage with Reese & VaLisa Palmer | Episode 216
Our topic in this episode is SO IMPORTANT! Mark and I are joined by Reese and VaLisa Palmer, fellow workers in the sphere of marriage coaching and strengthening. Reese is a clinical psychotherapist specializing in marriage...
Improving Sexual Intimacy in Marriage | Episode 215
Note for the Listener: As you can probably guess from the title, we talk candidly about sexual intimacy in this episode. We recommend listening to it away from young ears if you have children at home. You may have heard us...
Managing Intrusive Thoughts, Triggers, and Reminders with Leslie Hardie | Episode 214
Can you remember your first breakup? Even if you parted ways amicably, you likely questioned if you were good enough, if you made the right choice, or even criticized yourself for not doing enough to try to make it work....
Red-Hot Monogamy with Bill & Pam Farrel | Episode 213
Buckle up, this is the episode where we are covering all things sex! You may feel embarrassed to talk about sex candidly or you may even feel like sex is still a dirty word from your childhood. However, you may be...
Overcoming Resentment in Marriage with Chelsea Damon | Episode 212
Are there some aspects of your relationship where you often feel worked up, angry, or even like things aren’t fair? This is a prime breeding ground for resentment to take root. This could be a result of something your...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
