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Books
NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.

ARTICLEs
The “Plan the Holidays” Date | #MarriageMonday
Jill: It’s that time of year again. Christmas music is starting to play as tons of decor hits the store shelves. Mark: As the calendar begins to fill up with Thanksgiving meals, office parties, and plans to visit extended family around Christmas, it can be difficult...
7 Negative Actions That Can Hurt Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Mark: When Jill and I look back at what contributed to the dark season in our marriage, we found that it wasn’t the big things that made a difference. It was actually the little things that simmered under the surface. These things began an unraveling that gained...
4 Tips to Increase Connection and Let Go of Resentment | #MarriageMonday
Mark: I didn’t realize coming into marriage how much idealism and unrealistic expectations drove my everyday thinking and perspective. When my expectations weren’t met, my "slow fade of unrealistic expectations" led to disappointment and discouragement. For years I...
Help! My Nest Is Empty But My Spouse Still Lives Here! | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Imagine this: You finish dropping your last child off at college, you work through some of the heavy emotions in the car ride home, and you sit down at dinner once you get back home. You've made it to a major milestone: An empty nest. But wait... Who is that...
6 Common Things We Hear in Marriage Coaching | #MarriageMonday
Mark: Jill and I developed our marriage ministry because we wanted to use our own marriage pain and healing work to help others, and boy did we get a huge number of requests once we started offering marriage coaching. Jill: You know, we’ve received hundreds of...
Dear Frustrated: When You Want to Change Your Spouse
Dear Mark and Jill, I don’t like to be late to anything, and especially not to church. When I realize we'll be late, my energy is zapped, I get frustrated and shut down. My spouse, on the other hand, is less concerned with being on time. This has been a recurring...
Podcast
Managing Intrusive Thoughts, Triggers, and Reminders with Leslie Hardie | Episode 214
Can you remember your first breakup? Even if you parted ways amicably, you likely questioned if you were good enough, if you made the right choice, or even criticized yourself for not doing enough to try to make it work. When we journey through breakups, infidelity,...
Red-Hot Monogamy with Bill & Pam Farrel | Episode 213
Buckle up, this is the episode where we are covering all things sex! You may feel embarrassed to talk about sex candidly or you may even feel like sex is still a dirty word from your childhood. However, you may be surprised to learn that there are very few “do nots”...
The Essentials of Affair Recovery | Episode 141
Our marriage went off the tracks in 2011, when Mark was in a full-on midlife crisis, affair included. It would take us two years to move from being on the verge of divorce to a healed and improved Mark & Jill 2.0. I wouldn’t wish anyone to go through infidelity;...
The Elements of Transformation | Episode 197
Mark is back with me on the podcast today to help answer a question we hear often: “What makes the difference in people who are able to overcome difficult things?" This could be in regard to marriages that are restored or lives that experience growth and...
The Power of Our Words | Episode 191
I’m happy to have my husband join me for this episode! It’s been a little while since Mark and I shared a conversation on the podcast, and today we’re talking about the power of our words. If we fully realized just how dangerous careless words can be, we might take...
Navigating Conflict with Donna Jones | Episode 186
Conflict…it’s one of our favorite topics in the world. Just kidding! Most of us try to steer clear of conflict, and those of us who embrace it don’t always handle it in the healthiest ways. We’ve certainly all had moments where we looked back at how we handled a...
Courses & Classes






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