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to No More Perfect Marriages
HAVE A HURTING MARRIAGE?
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NO MORE PERFECT MARRIAGES
No marriage is perfect. But every marriage can get better.
In No More Perfect Marriages, Mark and Jill speak honestly about their struggles, how they came back from betrayal, and the principles keeping their marriage strong today. They guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
→How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage–even a good marriage
→How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
→How to set and communicate realistic expectations
→What to do if your spouse just won’t change
→How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
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ARTICLEs
How to Know If You’re Ready to Rebuild Trust | #MarriageMonday
Jill: Mark and I often say that we have been married for 39 years—29 of them happily. Mark: That’s right. In the 10 unhappy years, our marriage was a mess in many ways. You wouldn’t have thought it looking in from the outside because we were doing everything “right.”...
4 Ways to Pray for Our Trip to Minister to Marriages in Uganda | #MarriageMonday
Mark: We've written this before we left, but you'll be reading this article right when we're in the middle of ministering to marriages in Uganda and Tanzania. Jill: That’s right! God literally connected dots that caused our lives to intersect with Daniel Tulibageny at...
7 Questions to Ask Your Spouse Approaching Summer | #MarriageMonday
Jill: You know, summer is one of my favorite seasons. The sun is out, I get to tend to my garden, and I love getting to enjoy time with our grandchildren while they are on school break. Mark: I do as well. Along with summer, though, comes busy schedules, BBQs to...
How to Have a Safe Conversation | #MarriageMonday
Jill: I think it’s accurate to say that most of our conversations as Mark & Jill 1.0 (before our crisis) were not very emotionally-safe conversations. But now as Mark & Jill 2.0 (since we have been intentionally investing in our marriage), our conversations...
5 Ways Unrealistic (or Unmet) Expectations Are Harming Your Marriage | #MarriageMonday
Years of mentoring hurting couples and navigating our own hurting relationship have led us to conclude that the number one cause of divorce isn’t money or sex or infidelity or even communication. These are all secondary issues of the deeper issue. They are symptoms of...
A Morning Routine for a Connected Marriage | #MarriageMonday
In the past, we have shared about some shifts we have made to our evening routine to feel better connected in our marriage. We thought it's about time we talk about better connecting in the morning as well! The mornings are such an important part of the day for...
Podcast
Lessons Learned in 40 Years of Marriage | Episode 150
You may recall that Mark and I are doing marriage training in Uganda for pastors and their wives. In case you missed it, you can hear the whole story here in Episode 135: To Uganda with Love. To make sure you continue to receive encouragement and value for your...
Love is a Choice with Dr. Gary Chapman | Episode 143
If there is one principle I have learned in nearly 40 years of marriage, it’s the principle that love is a choice. It’s a decision. It is not a feeling. Dr. Gary Chapman believes that as well because Love Is a Choice is the name of his newest book. Dr. Gary Chapman is...
How Your “Then” Affects Your “Now” with Elliott Anderson | Episode 142
When Mark and I went through the dark season in our marriage, it’s no surprise that we sought out counseling. However, what most people find surprising is that our counselor focused more on untangling our childhoods than our skills as a couple. That was exactly what...
Why Personal Growth Is Important | Episode 132
Today, Mark is joining me to talk about the subject of personal growth. It’s no secret that we did a lot of work on our marriage that we now affectionately refer to as “Mark & Jill 2.0”. But what you might not hear us talk about specifically as much is how much...
Uncovering the Secrets of Sex and Marriage with Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma | Episode 131
When we were early in our marriage, I often said to Mark, “Sex... I could go the rest of my life without it!” And he totally believed me. True story! Needless to say, we had all kinds of challenges in that area of our marriage, and eventually, we sought out sex...
4 Ways to Become a Better Listener | Episode 128
Today, Mark is joining me to talk about an important, though often forgotten, topic: listening. Listening is a skill that takes practice, focus, and a willingness to set aside our thoughts and engage with others. It’s not always easy, but when we put in the effort,...
Courses & Classes
WANT PERSONALIZED HELP? TRY COACHING!
Having a coach is like having a personal trainer. Instead of working on body goals, you’ll set and meet life or career goals. If you feel overwhelmed with life, marriage, building a platform, speaking, or writing, Jill knows the path and she can guide you to success!
Free Gifts
Discover the 6 Practical Steps to Rebuilding Trust
No matter how trust has been broken, it’s possible to rebuild it and to even have a better marriage than before! This short guide gets you started in the right direction.
